Spoken during Todd's memorial by Seth Dyson:
In Robert Frost poem “Mending Walls”, one neighbor is intent on making sure this wall is repaired, built up to create separation. He several times makes the statement, “Good fences make good neighbors”. But as this neighbor is described as walking in darkness, he truly doesn’t know what makes a good neighbor.
We have lived next to Todd and Debbie for the past twelve years, and had the privilege of witnessing what a true neighbor is. I speak for the cluster of homes beside, behind, down the alley from the Kellers…Mary and Italo, Anna, Durrell and his family, Clarissa, ND and myself…
Todd was the best example of a neighbor I have ever seen. Most of us know him to be the tall, lanky, guy tinkering with his truck for what seemed a decade. Sometimes I would ask him if it would ever be finished. He would just smile and laugh. But beyond that, he never hesitated to help his neighbors when they needed it. Garage door isn’t working, there he was working on Anna’s garage door, Italos and Mary’s…he even helped fix the cables on ours. Didn’t ask for anything, “just taking care of my neighbors”.
Todd wasn’t just a neighbor to me. He was someone that taught me a lot of how to fix things and work on things around the house. He was patient with me as I would ask him if I could borrow something, a tool, anything to fix something on the car. Not only would he provide the tool (as soon as he could find it), but he also came and either showed me how to fix it or if I couldn’t do it, he jumped right and did it. Selfless. On more than one occasion our Jeep had wiring issues between the door and the console, and I would get frustrated…simply because there’s not much room to work with. But Todd would come over with his strangely long fingers and miraculously maneuver things and get it done. That’s just who he was. He was more than just a neighbor to me, he was a some what of a father figure to me as I didn’t grow up with a father that showed me how to these things. I learned to not be afraid to get your hands dirty and give it a try.
He was the epitome of what a neighbor is called to be. That’s something special. And more importantly, he lived as we are called to do. Several times in the gospels, and specifically in Matthew 22:39, we are called to “love your neighbor as you love yourself.” Through his giving of his time and knowing those that lived around us, helping them in all situations, he lived this out.
I miss him already, and miss the tinkering in the driveway. Thank you for everything you have shown me in the past decade. I promise to be more like you with our small community of friends, our neighbors.