I will be attending the funeral of my friend Charles Diffee today. He was a pastor, starting Metropolitan Bible Church and School in Pleasant Grove and Hidden Acres Retreat.
At least three generations of our families have been acquainted, and I have known him for over 40 years. I never attended Metropolitan, but we were friends and I have shared both sad and funny events with him.
He took me to a Rotary meeting the day Challanger exploded. I did not know anyone there except Charles but I will never forget that day. Every person there broke down and cried. It was painful, but it was also quite powerful to share the grief we all felt.
On another occasion we were talking in my office at Full Color when my phone rang. It was his office calling to tell him that Steve Farr, a member of Metropolitan (and another family we have known for a long, long time) had died in an accident. He immediately left to go be with the family.
Charles was deep. On the other hand, his brother Jerry Diffee was a cheerful, happy guy. They balanced each other very well, but when it came to community service they were deep rivals. Charles tried to recruit me for Rotary. Jerry was deeply committed to Kiwanis. One day I went to a Rotary meeting with Charles. Back at the church office Jerry noticed the calendar entry for that with my name. Charles dropped me off at my office about 1:30. At 2:00 Jerry was sitting in my office pitching Kiwanis!
Charles and I lost our spouses within a few months of each other. Shortly after that we had lunch and a long, deep talk about life. Charles suggested some theology reading for me. I told him that I was a historian and I would leave the theology to him.
He understood. Only a great pastor would be able to do that. I will miss him.